June 2nd, 2010

Today seemed to start as a typical day. The kids were up and ready for school, David was ready for work, with his lunch. Tabitha and Nicholas were outside waiting for the bus along with MaKaliah, although her bus runs later. Watching them get on that bus changed the whole day for me. Watching them climb the bus steps, although I had watched them many mornings before, was hard for me this morning.
With each step they took seemed like a mile farther away they went. Like they forgot me with each step. Then it hit me. I am far from the best mom. I mean I give them everything they need. A home, food, clothes, and a basic life. Don't they deserve more though. Don't they deserve to have SOME of their wants met? Don't they deserve a new outfit more than once a year. Don't they deserve at least one costly pair shoes. Don't they deserve so much more. They have nothing to really play with outside. No pool, no swing, no sandbox, no nothing. They live a life like I did as a child, only difference, I had a swing set, we were able to go to the lake swimming, I had a bike, and plenty of room to play.
I know all mom's wish they could give their kids more then that do. I'm sure my mom wanted us to have more, and the moms before her. If I could have all wishes granted, nothing would ever worry me about what they have and don't have. I wouldn't worry about them going to school and coming home safe. It's the world we live in.
This is probably a post that will make many mad at me, however, if I was worried about making someone mad, I SURE wouldn't have started this whole blog. What happened to the world where neighbors helped each other. Instead of calling the cops because you get mad at someone, why not sit down and talk things out. Instead of calling social services, why not offer to help the parents. NOW, that statement is NOT meant in a way that you shouldn't call on a child being beaten on. I mean instead of calling and say things like "the kids have not food at night", why not fix a little extra and take that child a meal. Facts about it is, if the child is not getting a meal, then the rest of the family isn't either.
As for government, wow, that is a utterly un-fixable topic. For instance, if your going to waste tax payers money paying unemployment, why not make it tougher to keep it after a set time. Why not make the ones who are receiving unemployment benefits, prove they are trying to get a job. I mean anyone can say "yes I called such and such place about a job", or "I put in application". Anyone can say that, but make them prove it. Start calling these places that they put down and make them fax a paper saying that the person did actually try.
Then we have parents that feel they don't need to help support their children after a divorce. This goes for moms and dads alike. As things stand here in Kentucky, if you fall behind so far they give you so many days to get caught up if your behind. After that you go to jail for so long, then another time period, then more jail time. Apparently that isn't effective. There needs to be a better way of making things balance out. It's costing tax payers money for those people to go to jail and end up in and out every 30 days or so. Not only does it make it harder on those who do pay, but it's also hard on the parents that the support is owed to. The kids have to do without things they need in some cases. Yet, the child support offices only do the bare requirements on the cases.
Why don't we just go back to the way things use to be. Where people wanted to work, wanted to talk, wanted to live! The way the world is getting, no one wants to offer so much as kind word. Kids are more into drugs and alcohol then they were when parents had time to be involved. Back when people could afford to be happier, back when people wanted to help one another.
I suppose that I live in a fantasy land. A place where people loved to be around other people.